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What do i do???
Posted by K. on May 02, 2008 at 06:27:10:
Well heres the thing me and my husband have sex a lot but i never actually have an orgasm. I feel really bad because i have to fake them everytime because i dont know how to tell him that im not getting off. Im scared that it will hurt his feelings, but sex is not fun nor exciting to me anymore. What do you think i should do?
Webmaster Reply:
Well, I don't think you should lie about orgasms on a regular basis. Once in awhile, okay, but if things aren't working, there's no point deluding him. Both women and men will lie about orgasms in order to not hurt their partner's feelings; but when it is constant, resentment starts to build, and that is NOT conducive to intimacy. So, in the end, it is counter-productive. No, the thing to do is to be honest, and then to work on the quest together as a team. For females, that always means learning how to orgasm on their own first. Again, I recommend the ultimate book for this task - "Sex for One" by Betty Dodson. You figure out what you need to get off, and then convey that method to him.Randy