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Wife without orgasms
Posted by D. on May 04, 2008 at 07:09:55:
My wife and I have been married for 3 years now (28/30 years old ), the only way she can have an orgasm is with a vibrator I bought her, she can't even have an O by masturbating, she just never does. Every now and then she comes up with the classic conversation that her exboyfriend used to make her came without any problems; without intercourse. That kind of comments boders me, I do everything I can and do everything she asks for, there is not a single thing I don't do for her in bed but still she doesn't have an orgasm.
It's kind of frustrating and I try to tell her that is not my fault she doesn;t come, but she doesn't think that way. My exgirfriend use to come all of the time 2, 3 times, and very easy and fast. By experience I can tell that different women have different anatomy, some come very easy other just don't. An advantage I think her exboyfriend had was that he was her first sexual experience.
Also one of our problems is that the more she uses the vibrator the more she gets use to it, and the less she will orgasm, but since that is the only way she can orgams then we still play with it.
How can I explain her that it is not my fault she doen't come? or is it my fault ? will appreciate your advice thanks!
Webmaster Reply:
Of course it's not your fault. It's nobody's fault. Since every human's anatomy is slightly different, there are just certain bodies that fit together perfectly for orgasm, BUT most bodies do not. (If you had been around as much as I have, you would know exactly what I mean! Oh, I was a slut...) As fate would have it, her first boyfriend - whom she indiscreetly refers to - has a 'key' that fit her 'lock'. That's just chance, and, as you say, probably also related to being her first sexual partner. The thing is to not take it personally - it's just anatomy - and continue to do your best. And she needs to acknowledge your efforts and do her best to meet them.Randy