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In A Tough Situation
Posted by D. on May 07, 2008 at 06:37:20:
I have a problem with my penis. When I try to have sex I
lose hardness quickly and I cannot come. I do not think I
get aroused fully even when I get head or cum. When I
masturbate I do not do it the normal way like with jerking.
Its more of a massage technique with my hand. I have never
had a girlfriend and only a few casual sex partners but I
only technically had sex once because the other times I
didn't stay hard enough to get it in to her vagina. I
thought maybe it was a mental thing because I went 22 years
without ever having sex and I just masturbated. I thought
something was wrong. I thought maybe if I went without
masturbating for awhile then would try to do it the normal
way that it might work. I tried that once and it kinda
worked but I don't know. Porn does not do it for me because
for awhile I thought it was demeaning towards women. There
times when I was young I would get horny at times that I was
not even thinking about anything sexual. I didn't think that
was normal. I had a surgery where they scoped me when I was
young because of wetting the bed, they wanted to see if
things were ok in that area. Turns out that they were, but I
still do not know if it is a mental thing or not and if I am
just so used to me just masturbating that I cannot do much
when I am with someone. Its like when I am having sex, I am
trying to be in the mood and am horny for awhile and then I
see her body and its like my mind goes somewhere else. If I
see a naked female I think I should be excited. I just do
not know what to do. I also heard that your balls should
float in the water. I do not believe that mine do. I thought
I was to young to have ED. I am only 24.
Webmaster Reply:
I hate to tell you, but ED has no age limit. About 8% of males have ED at age 18. That's an unpleasant statistic, but I don't think that's your problem. You get an erection for masturbation and ejaculate, and that says the plumbing is working. Your difficulties with a partner are most likely stress-related. You have not had a lot of sexual experiences, so you are understandably nervous when confronted with a naked partner. Nothing kills an erection like stress. I think when you get comfortable in a relationship, things will improve. One thing that helps is a very simple and cheap solution - a cock ring. I swear by them. Get one that goes around the base of the penis and base of the testicles - the adjustable leather ones with Velcro work great. It gives you that little 'boost' that helps to keep you hard.I don't know about this scoping thing, but you should ask your doctor about that. I wonder if it has effects on sexual performance later. Don't know, but it's a good question for you to investigate. Also, your lack of arousal over females makes me wonder if you're barking up the wrong gender. Does anyone turn you on? Those are all questions that need to be considered, and talking with your doctor is the best resource.
Randy
PS
Balls floating in water? Sounds like a myth to me. Mine certainly don't. Of course, I guess if you had big enough balls you wouldn't need a life-jacket if that were true.