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Divorce and Sex
Posted by K. on May 11, 2008 at 06:30:27:
Howdy, I am currently going through a divorce. Although it was a very mutual split and was of the non-violent type and such, I am finding it hard to deal with the thought of another woman. Now, I must admit I AM a sexual fiend, I simply love it. But when going into another relationship, I don't want to be with a girl I really really like, and then nothing happens......even though I honestly don't have feelings for my ex-wife. I have heard the story of "just don't do it till you are ready to move on." I feel I am ready. If I never move on, and try I know i'll never find out but....
the question is this. What can I do when I am in that moment? Is this maybe more of an issue of psychology than it is anatomy? Should I even be worried?
Nothing would be more embarrassing than at 25 years of age not being able to get an erection during a hot and heavy moment, especially if I really really like the girl.
Webmaster Reply:
That took me a couple of reads, but I got it. You're worried that, if you get with another woman that you quite like, you will not be able to perform. Considering the stress of a divorce, that is entirely possible. Your next sexual encounter is inevitably going to remind you of your previous relationship. That's only natural, and many people - men and women - find the new situation uncomfortable at first. However, this passes, and it is simply something you have to go through. Women are remarkably charitable and understanding of men in this situation, so don't fret about it. You are young, and the dust will soon settle. It's important to take your friends' advice of not rushing into a new relationship. That will be disastrous for you and your new partner. Just play the field for awhile until you get your mojo back.Randy